March 05, 2009 08:17:14 GMT
"If it's not painful, maybe it wasn't the right decision to marry to begin with," Reese Witherspoon defends the feelings she experienced when she got divorced from ex-husband Ryan Phillippe.
"Very humiliating and very isolating" are how Reese Witherspoon felt about her divorce from then-husband Ryan Phillippe, but the Oscar-winning actress says she tends to perceive the feelings as "the appropriate emotions" that everyone who gets through divorce will experience. "If it's not painful, maybe it wasn't the right decision to marry to begin with," she argues.
"When people get in your face and say, 'This will pass,' you think, Are they crazy? I'm never gonna feel any better than I feel right this minute and nothing's ever gonna make sense again," Reese elaborates. "And I still have moments where I'm like, Nothings ever gonna make sense again."
On the life lesson she learns from her divorce to Ryan, Reese opens up, "You see a lot of people play this blame game. Blame, blame, blame. You know? And it's a really easy thing to do, and I'm certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, 'What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility? And that's the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real life knowledge out of it."
When asked about her current boyfriend, actor Jake Gyllenhaal, Reese has nothing but praise for him. "He's fabulous. He really is a fantastic guy. Unfortunately, he's not in the movie ("Monsters vs. Aliens"), so we can't really talk about him," so she tells the April 2009 issue of Elle magazine. In further interview, Reese also addresses her role as a mother to her two children with Ryan; daughter Ava and son Deacon. Food and her reported Type A personality are the other topics that Reese talks about with Elle.