Though acknowledging the grace it took for Daly to apologize for his on-the-air comments, Alice Hoagland reminds him that 'gay men and women come in every shape and size.'
Carson Daly has already apologized for making offensive joke about gay people when discussing the recent mid-flight meltdown of JetBlue pilot Clayton Osbon, but a family member of one 9/11 victim isn't letting him go easily. In a response letter to the TV host's apology, Alice Hoglan reminded him how wrong is his stereotyping.
"With your on-the-air comments [March 28] morning, you demonstrated an ugly ignorance," the mother of Flight 93 hero Mark Bingham wrote to Daly. "But [March 28] afternoon you also showed the grace to apologize for your odd remarks, as you should. I hope that now you'll take the opportunity to learn about the gay community, and how diverse it is."
"Gay men and women come in every shape and size: short, tall, slender, stout, delicate, and powerful. They do not deserve to be stereotyped, nor categorized. Yes, my gay son was known in our family for bringing me flowers on my birthday and Mother's Day. He also was known for careening down the rugby pitch, and, on the morning of September 11, 2001, for charging unarmed down the aisle of a doomed Boeing 757 to face knife-wielding Islamist thugs in a hijacked cockpit."
"No one among his pick-up team of fellow passengers was asking ]Are you straight? Are you gay?' No one doubted that a guy who weighed 220 and stood 6'4" tall - who could run over a charging opponent on the field, and ran with the bulls in Pamplona earlier that summer - would be an asset to a desperate group trying to overcome a threat onboard an airliner."
"The world has its share of strong, heroic gay men. Gay men in sports uniforms and military uniforms have been winning America's games and fighting America's battles for a long time: quietly, humbly, and in the face of vicious bigotry," she concluded. "I hope you and I may have an opportunity to talk sometime. I prefer to believe you didn't mean to offend. Good luck to you."
Daly outraged the LGBT community after joking during his morning radio show that gays would not have been able to restrain Osbon like the brave men on the JetBlue flight. The former MTV VJ was quick to apologize though. He first wrote on Twitter, "This morning on my radio show I attempted to make fun of myself & offended others by mistake. I sincerely apologize."
The 38-year-old later issued a longer statement to GLAAD. "I've long been a supporter of gay, lesbian, and transgender rights, and I'm saddened that my comments, however unintentional, offended anyone, specifically members of the LGBT community," he continued. "The fact that I have hurt anyone is devastating. I'm not that guy."