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Jennifer Lopez graces the cover of Self magazine, showing off her incredibly-toned body in a white leotard. For the cover story, the singer who has twins with ex-husband Marc Anthony talks about dating younger guys and dealing with breakups.

"All the old cliches about women need to be undone," says J.Lo who just broke up with her younger beau Casper Smart. "Enough already. We're in the other position now. We are desirable older, we can date younger guys and it's not this big taboo. Men have been doing this for years, and it's no big deal. Enough with the cliches about women. We can date younger guys ... it's no big deal."

The singer whose exes include P. Diddy and Ben Affleck says of her high-profiled breakups, "When you have that much pain, you have to anesthetize yourself in some ways. People do different things. Some go out and party and sleep around, but that's just not my way."

"I found the comfort in someone else. That's called being a love addict. When I face myself, I go, You have a fear of really being on your own. So you know what? That's what we're gonna do right now. But it took me years to get there. So first it was learning to love myself. And then it was about facing my fears."

This life experience helps J.Lo connect with her character in upcoming movie "The Boy Next Door". She plays a woman whose fling with a much younger guy leads to terrible incidents. "I've been through divorce. I've been cheated on, just like every other girl in the world. So you sympathize, you understand the emotions. And I've dated a younger guy once in my life, so I could definitely understand that part, too - the attraction," she explains.

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