Prince Harry's 3-year dating rule was shattered by Meghan Markle. Discover the royal romance that defied his own protocol, as revealed in his memoir 'Spare'.
- April 3, 2026
AceShowbiz - Prince Harry revealed in his memoir Spare that he had a strict personal rule about the pace of relationships, which he completely discarded after meeting Meghan Markle. Back in 2016, when their romance began, Harry was living a very different life as a full-time working royal residing at Kensington Palace, close to his brother, Prince William.
That summer marked a turning point for the Duke of Sussex. He openly admitted that he had a long-standing guideline: he would only consider taking a serious step in a relationship after dating someone for at least three years. This principle was something he followed rigorously as a young royal bachelor, but it quickly became obsolete when Harry started dating Meghan Markle.
In Spare, Harry explains, “The main one was that you absolutely must date a woman for three years before taking the plunge.” However, he describes how Meghan was a clear exception to this rule. It was during a trip to Africa that he realized their connection was unlike anything he'd experienced before. He recounts, “Meg seemed the shining exception to this rule. All rules. I knew her straightaway, and she knew me. The true me. Might seem rash, I thought, might seem illogical, but it's true: For the first time, in fact, I felt myself to be living in truth.”
Just two years after their initial meeting, in 2018, the couple married in a high-profile Windsor wedding, solidifying their bond in a fairy-tale ceremony. This was notably faster than Harry’s previously held three-year rule, highlighting how profoundly Meghan altered his approach to relationships.
Since then, their journey has taken many turns. Two years after their wedding, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex stepped back from senior royal duties and relocated to California with their children, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet. The couple’s relationship with the royal family has been complex and, at times, strained.
Despite ongoing tensions, a close friend of Harry has disclosed that he would welcome an invitation to spend the summer at Sandringham, the King’s estate in Norfolk. The Duke of Sussex is scheduled to be in the UK in July for an event connected to the Invictus Games set for Birmingham in 2027. This visit could provide an opportunity for a family reunion.
According to the insider speaking to the Sunday Times, “If he was invited by the King, he would get a package of security that automatically kicks in. He'd like an invite to Sandringham. Would he go? It would depend who was there. If the King was to say, 'Come up and spend some time with the family,' he'd love that.”
However, a source close to the King has responded cautiously to these sentiments, emphasizing that “low trust and bitter experience” remain significant obstacles to reconciliation. This source told the Daily Mail that the perception of leaks and public disclosures from Harry’s camp regarding family matters continue to hinder progress toward mending relations between father and son.
While the prospect of a reunion lingers, it is clear that unresolved issues around privacy and trust are key barriers. The ongoing dynamic within the royal family highlights the complexities of Harry and Meghan’s position both within the monarchy and in the public eye.
Looking back, the decision Harry made to abandon his own dating rule after meeting Meghan Markle reflects the profound impact she has had on his life. Their relationship defied Harry’s earlier cautious approach and set him on a path markedly different from the one he had envisioned for himself as a younger royal.
From their first encounter in 2016 to their marriage in 2018, and subsequent move to the United States, Harry and Meghan continue to be central figures in a story marked by transformation, challenges, and evolving family dynamics. Their personal journey remains a subject of significant public and media interest as they navigate life inside and outside the royal spotlight.